too hard

Well in a nutshell, after much tooing and frowing of emails and high emotions, we are not going ahead with the surrogacy - too many issues and emotions involved - a step too far I think.

Adoption seems to be the only option left now unless there's some miracle waiting around the corner.....

Yippeee

I've finally married to the most perfect man for me in the world - I'm so happy, a family now would make my (and our) life perfect!

initial consultation

My sister had her first consultation to discuss the treatment going forward yesterday.  She now has an idea of what's going to happen and what her next steps are when the time comes round.  1st cycle likely to be December this year.  More forms for us all to fill in, and both my sister and Peter need more blood tests to be completed before we start our first cycle.

Done

Peter 'deposited' his sperm sample into the sperm bank for 6 month freezing, the count down has now begun - we can start at the end of the 6 month period - so looking at starting at the end of this year (2012).

Counselling

Had counselling session at LWC yesterday.  We all had to attend, she was very good - hit the nail right on the head with the feelings I've been having about the whole infertility journey and how I'm now feeling about what we're about to embark on.

Made me feel a bit more normal, but didn't take away my fears - don't think anything will, only going through it will determine whether my fears were unfounded or not.

Sister had bloods done as well and set a date for her initial consultation session.

1st appointment

the 4 of us off to see the consultant at LWC to click start the surrogacy process off - kept assuming we were going for IVF as it's more money for them, so had to keep reminding Dr Nair that it was IUI we were going for.

Peter spoke to sperm donor people and found out what tests he needs as he is going to have to go on the sperm donor register as he will be donating to my sister and she will have to register as a client to receive Donor IUI treatment.

Sister has list of bloods that need to be done and Peter has given his first sample for testing.

Solicitors

Peter and I went to see a solicitor today about surrogacy and the legalities involved, very positive and (should be) straight forward.

Sister and her hubby have to register the birth in their names and Peter and I have to apply to the courts for a parental order to assume legal parental responsibility for the child, this can't be done until the child is 6 weeks old, but has to be done before the child is 6 months old.  Then it's up to the courts to confirm that the birth parents (my sister and hobby) do not want to stay as legal parents and are happy to sign away their rights to the child.

Seems easy enough!